Years ago while an undergraduate at the University of Texas in Austin, I heard the quote “In life there are no mistakes only lessons.” Until today I never knew who said it, nor had I read the entire quote. Now that I have read the entire quote, I love it even more. This quote has always gotten me over a hump.
As a career woman I was successful and respected. Leaving a situation where I was respected to stay at home with my son was a difficult decision. As a career woman I “thought” I knew what it meant to be a stay at home mom. Honestly, I didn’t understand when I would hear my friends who stayed at home say, “I didn’t have time to do this” or “I didn’t have time to do that.” What do you mean you didn’t have time, for goodness sakes you stay at home, how hard could it be?? Now that I am on the other side of that statement, I know staying at home is not an easy job and is in fact a job!
There are some people in my life who see me staying at home as the easy way out, so for a second I wondered if I made a “mistake.” Then I was reminded of this quote and realized my decision was not a mistake, but an opportunity. An opportunity to be involved in my son’s life the way my mother was never able to be involved in mine because she had to work. I saw his first steps, heard his first words, and was there for his first fall. In the future, I will be there on the first day of school, join him on field trips, be involved in PTA, be a classroom mom, at the bus stop when he’s dropped off, and so on.
Does staying at home make me “better” than a working mom? Does staying at home make me “less” than a working mom? I say “no” to both questions. It doesn’t make me better than or less than, it makes me different.
As the quote says, I will trust my choice and embrace the lessons I learn on this journey. I want to encourage you moms who are at home with your children wondering if you made the right decision to TRUST your choice. Don’t wonder if it was a mistake. Embrace this opportunity for as long as you can and enjoy this “Jolly MOMent!”