The One Thing That Scares Me The Most

women-loveThis past week as I searched for quotes to post on my Jolly Moments Facebook page, I came across this one from Eleanor Roosevelt.

“Do something that scares you everyday”

As soon as I read this quote, I knew what I needed to do.

When I was three, my father, two older brothers, and uncle went on a fishing trip. This one decision forever changed our family.

My oldest brother loved to wear cowboy boots. The boots he loved caused him to slip in the water and a current took him under. My uncle jumped in to save him. Neither made it out.

My father jumped in and probably would have met the same fate if bystanders hadn’t pulled him out.

My mother, my surviving brother, and I never blamed my father, but some of my family did. With so much anger, confusion, and pain resulting from this tragic event, my mother felt she had no choice but to choose her extended family over my father.

As a result, I did not see my father often as a child. This led to me not seeing him often as an adult.

So here we are decades later and my father and I still do not have a strong relationship. It’s not that we don’t want it. I just think after so much time apart, along with the circumstances that caused the separation, we don’t know how.


FEAR. GUILT. BLAME. SHAME. REGRET. HEARTACHE. DENIAL. CONFUSION.

Over the years, so many emotions tortured those impacted by my brother and uncle’s death.  It is time to replace it all with something new.


LOVE! HOPE! FORGIVENESS! HEALING! ACCEPTANCE!

I am ready to do something that scares me, and that is seeking to have a relationship with my father.

I tried at 30, and even tried at 33 when I asked him to walk me down the aisle on my wedding day.

Although with each attempt, FEAR never allowed me to stick with it, there is one thing I know for sure:

Love NEVER gives up, NEVER loses faith, is ALWAYS hopeful, and ENDURES through every circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13:7 NLT)

I used to wonder what life would look life if my brother were still here and that day never happened. I know I cannot change the past. BUT, I can change what happens from this day forward.

As long as my father and I both remain on this earth, there is an opportunity and hope for a relationship.

Although it scares me, I choose to believe LOVE NEVER FAILS!

~Keishawna
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What to Remember When Waiting On Your Breakthrough!

Just when the butterfly thought

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.”

The caterpillar has to go through metamorphosis to become a butterfly. At times, the process is difficult and painful, but the outcome is beautiful.

It is through trials, tests, and tribulations that we grow. Anyone can give up. However, it takes faith, courage, and endurance to keep pressing, standing, fighting, and believing when you don’t understand.

Your breakthrough may be on the other side of your next yes, next no, next act of obedience, next leap of faith, etc. You cannot skip the process, but still want the promise.

“When life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate. When life is bitter, say thank you and grow!”  

Years ago, I learned of an entrepreneur who was down because business was slow. He felt defeated and unable to support his family.

One night, someone stole some of his property. This pushed him over the edge, and later that night he ended his life.

The next day, his phone began to ring. Old and new customers called in need of his services. He gave up days before his breakthrough.

I share this because somewhere in the world, someone wants to give up on his or her life, marriage, children, business, dream, etc.

If God has not told you to quit, keep standing and trust his plan, even though you do not understand the process.

“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.”

(Galatians 6:9 NLT)

Don’t give up and let someone else reap the benefits of your hard work!

“Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God no matter what happens.”

(1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 Message)

Have a blessed day!
‪~Keishawna
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Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day to ALL the women who currently play a significant role in a child’s life.  It truly takes a village in today’s age to raise a child.

So whether you are the biological mother, adoptive mother, aunt, sister, educator, friend, etc, I salute you today for all you do. Your role, no matter the size, plays a part in shaping the man or woman that child will become.

Happy Mother’s Day to the women whose children are no longer here.  Children who said hello and goodbye in the womb.  Children who lived on this earth for just a season. Continue reading

Let It Go!

Simply Let It GoSo many times in life, we miss out on something great, trying to hold on to something good, or familiar.

Just because something, someone, or an idea is “good”, does not mean it is from God.

If you are holding on to something or someone, and you know you need to let go, I urge you to do so. 

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It’s Not How You Start, But How You Finish!

Hope DespairRecently, I visited a local church with my sister. During the sermon, the pastor, who is a former professional football player, recalled a time he fumbled the football during a critical moment of the game. After the fumble, he felt defeated knowing he let his teammates and coach down.

To his surprise, as he walked to the sidelines, his coach greeted him with words of encouragement. He said, “Forget about the fumble. If you keep thinking about the fumble, you will fumble again. There will be many more opportunities for you to make a play, so don’t get stuck in the moment.” Continue reading

Not A Moment Too Soon!

The Urbane FlowerI have never hosted a guest blogger on The Jolly Moments until today.  I am really excited to introduce to you all, Heather G., the creator of TheUrbaneFlower.com.  Heather created her blog after being prompted to tell her story. Instead, she created the platform to encourage other women to share the goodness of God in their lives, in faith, so that we all could encourage one another. You can follow Heather on Facebook and Twitter @TheUrbaneFlower. I pray you all are blessed by what she shared below.


“When I moved to Columbus, GA, (known as the Valley) in 2008, I thought it was like a scene from the Andy Griffin show… you know, Mayberry. It had the feel of an old established country town. I settled in pretty easily (continuing my career as a Social Worker, meeting new friends, etc.), but I was in for a rude awakening. Continue reading

Intentional Love: Displaying Selfless Love in a Selfish World

Intentional LoveMany people consider February to represent the month of love. For so many people Valentine’s Day may be the only time they receive love and gifts. For others, this holiday will come and go and no one will acknowledge them.

It is natural to want to receive gifts and love, and as a woman, I totally get it. However, today I want to challenge you to look at this holiday and month from a different perspective. Continue reading

Finish Strong

Finish StrongThis past weekend I decided to flip through some old journals and quickly noticed a recurring theme throughout. Almost every year I wrote about a particular dream that God placed on my heart years ago as a teenager.

As I read journal after journal, I realized here I am at the start of a new year and I have yet to accomplish that dream.    

Interestingly enough, I encouraged others in the past to face their fears and move forward, but failed to follow my advice. Continue reading

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The Greatest Gift

1  Corinthians 13I attended an intimate event last night so beautiful, I just had to share.

The invitation itself indicated this would be something unique. The host did not request anything, except our presence at her event.  She specifically requested no one bring a gift.

The host treated her guests to a four-course meal at an upscale restaurant.  We received the best of everything. Continue reading

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He Loves Me Anyway

But you love me anywayToday potentially could have ended in a bad way.

Although I did not like what happened, I had peace throughout the day because I know that no matter what, God loves me.

On days like this, I thank God that I am secure in His love for me.  I believe that someone needs a reminder that YOU ARE LOVED. Continue reading